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Love is not blind; love is a total determination to reproduce with the human being you're in love with. It's objective and based on genes and appearance.
It's not based on social ladders and/or how well you look after yourself.
Thus love is blind for your own condition, not the condition of others.
And, oh irony; the person you're in love with DOES see you for what you are!
So at least you got that right, people aren't blind.
Point is, love's not blind either; it lacks self-consciousness.
I realize "love" is an attraction to get you to make babies.
In any given nightclub, men release chemicals to attract only girls that are ovulating, while women release chemicals to get all guys interested. People like more symmetrical faces because it suggests a better gene, and a more likely chance of attractive offspring, thus continuing your particular line.
But. Your perception of a person can be thrown off due to your attraction to them. They are perfect, or their imperfections are just the cutest little quirks ever. Especially right after first meeting and having intimate relations, everything wrong with your partner is really overlooked. This is the "honeymoon stage" which happens when you start seeing someone, and sometimes right after a wedding, and a week away from everyone to have lotsa sex on some Caribbean island. This is the "blindness" that people refer to, and as the flame dies down, you can "see" again, and you see your partner's flaws for what they are. At this point, you either accept these flaws, get used to them, or you make the move of getting out of the relationship, because your personalities aren't compatible, and attempting to raise a child when with somebody you don't care for, the child (or children) grow up in a dysfunctional household, which can affect them negatively, and perhaps lower their chance of continuing your line.
The term "love is blind" just means that when you are already in love, the flaws of your partner are overlooked or downplayed in your mind, to give yourself a chance to get used to the person before deciding whether or not they are somebody you would like to have a long-term monogamous relationship with.
If the person you have an attraction to does not have the same attraction, however, this is where "People are not" comes in. People who are not in love or in like, even, tend to judge potential mates much more harshly than people with their sights already set on somebody (or somebodies).
Point is, the saying "love is blind" is not a term to be taken literally.
If you are, I do partially agree. people "blindly" have faith and adore a being that it cannot be said for sure exists. But I don't think that that is the same "kind" of love.
The kind of love I believe I mean is the love that can be returned to you by the other person. A romantic relationship love. And while it may not be "truly ignorant" I don't believe I ever made it out to be that way. It is temporarily ignorant to allow somebody to get comfortable with somebody to make sure that this is the person to create offspring with, and that their traits are as desirable as possible. Once this "ignorance" wears off and one is able to "see the real them" they see either a subtle contrast or a very large contrast between the lovely being they were dating only a week ago and the sadistic, somewhat bad-tempered and jealous person that their partner is now.
The illusion of absolute beauty... I don't know. I myself am young, but when I get a crush on somebody, (lust, technically, not love, but it can turn into it if given the right circumstances) Before I ever really liked them, I just... Didn't. They were only alright. And then I would slowly find more little bits and pieces I liked about them, and then... I suddenly had a love interest, even though they didn't always have the same feelings.
I'm not sure if this is what you are referring to, the lust before love?
Furthermore, and perhaps I should've said it earlier, the meaning of this entire seven word poem is just that, You may like somebody, but they will not always like you back, for whatever reason. Basic incompatibility, standards, or the belief that they would be "settling" by going for you, or whatever the reason. While you have a crush, or you still love somebody after the "flame" of it has all died down, and they don't return the feelings, your ability to grasp that this person is anything but perfection is gone. I'm not sure if you've ever experienced having a crush, but this is what happens. But, while you are there, thinking about this person and their perfection, and all the cute couple names you'd be given if you started publicly dating, the other person, they don't always have a crush on you, too. If they don't, they see you normally, and they may see a flaw that you don't in any relationship that might occur.
Although, stories and poems don't belong to their authors, they belong to the readers, and if you want to interpret my little piece the way you do, go ahead, I put it up for people to do just that.
Thank you.
so im not really sure if i like it or not....but i really find it interesting the amount of feedback this poem got!
it really sucks how much negative feedback there was, but this reminds me of this one time when i was watching Americas Next Top Model and some fans of the show were asked who their favorite model was and a lot of models got negative comments and a lot got positive ones. But the judges said that negative feedback is better than no feedback at all because at least people know who you are.
so basically im just saying that i like this poem (haha sorry.....it seems like im making it seem like i know more than you...cause i know i dont)
i hope you have a nice day
BT thank you, I hope your day is lovely as well.
BT thank you, I hope your day is lovely as well.
Something this simple~
Is what people miss~
Great job!